On August 15th, parents will dutifully input
their information to the PowerSchool portal and learn what teachers their
children have been assigned for the school year, and, eventually, through
several phone calls, whether their best friends have been placed in their classes. It is not an easy time for parents or
children.
I remember standing at the door of my children’s elementary
school and finding their names on a class list taped to a window which revealed
both their teachers and their classmates.
One child screamed “Yes” and the other child moaned “Nooooooo”. In later years, we were on vacation that week
and the tension built as we edged closer to civilization and my children’s
cellphones managed a connection to friends who shared which students were in
which classroom or wing. Often, the times that I worried the most about the separation of friends, it resulted in making new friends. With my children's success in handling some initial disappointments, I felt more comfortable telling them how confident I was in their ability to handle new situations and really mean it.
At this time of year, I can't help remembering those personal experiences and I want you to know that I am thinking of our parents and students here at Blanchard. Though our staff at Blanchard Memorial Schools works very
hard to place children in the optimal learning environment, it is inevitable
that children will feel either elated or disappointed with the teacher or the
fact that their circle of friends are not in the same class. As parents, we can try to help children
manage and navigate their emotions. If you have any questions, please feel free to call me at Blanchard before the school year, at the beginning of the school year, or anytime.
Here is one article from Hope Consulting that I liked:
Transition effectively into the new school year
By Katie Wetherbee
Catalogs and newspapers boldly
proclaim the advent of the new school year. Office supply stores tout the
latest, most effective organizational tools guaranteed to increase students’
success. While new notebooks and planners are valuable tools, the best preparation
is intangible. By equipping their children socially and emotionally, parents
can prepare their children for a positive school year.
Create Traditions
Traditions set the tone for many
seasons of the year, and the beginning of the school year is truly its own
“season.” Creating and maintaining traditions can help to ease children’s fears
and also help them positively anticipate the transition back to school. In
addition, family rituals and traditions are fun! Back-to-school traditions can
take many forms. One family celebrates by displaying pictures of “first days
past.” The family enjoys observing how the children have changed and grown
throughout the years. A local neighborhood hails the new school year by hosting
a First Day Breakfast. Neighbors meet at the bus stop, armed with donuts, juice
and good wishes before the students board the bus. Other back-to-school
celebrations include going out for dinner on the evening before school and
special school supply shopping expeditions.
Setting Goals
The start of the school year is an
excellent time for “new year’s resolutions.” Parents can model goal setting for
their children by sharing some of their own goals for careers or hobbies. It is
particularly helpful for parents to share both successes and failures to give a
sense of perspective. More importantly, children will glean the values of
patience and persistence. This underscores that mistakes sometimes build more
character than success; a healthy attitude toward failure is an integral part
of accomplishing goals.
When setting goals, parents should
encourage students to emphasize process rather than product. Instead of, “I
want to get 100% on all of my spelling tests,” parents can suggest, “I will
study my spelling every night for 15 minutes so I can do my best on the tests.”
For older students who are worried about class rankings and grade point
averages, the same wisdom applies. Rather than focusing on numbers alone,
students should create a measurable action plan for their aspirations. “I want
to go to an Ivy League school” is an admirable goal; “I will meet with my
guidance counselor for college planning, take an SAT prep course, and get a
tutor for chemistry,” gives a student structure and teaches responsibility.
Transitioning to a New School
Adjusting to a new school—as the
result of a move to a new town, or just a new school in a familiar
district—takes time and effort. Parents can ease this transition in several
ways. First, younger children will benefit from visiting the school, playing on
the playground, and peeking in the windows of the classrooms. Reading stories
about school experiences can also be a comfort to young children.
Older students, while experienced
with school transitions, may harbor their own concerns; arriving at class on
time and mastering the combination lock are two common worries. As they
anticipate the school year, the pressure to succeed athletically and
academically can be intense. Parents can encourage their children by
emphasizing effort: “You really studied hard for that test. I’ll bet you are
proud of yourself,” can be especially encouraging.
The Balancing Act
Transitioning into a new school year
usually means new sports, clubs and lessons. All of these activities are
enriching and enticing, but families should proceed with caution. Overbooking
the family schedule can result in stress, fatigue, and frustration. Students
may not have ample time to complete school assignments or prepare adequately
for tests. In addition, children need downtime for relaxation and unstructured
time with family and friends. Parents should be keenly aware that free time in
a student’s weekly schedule is not a luxury, but a necessity.
As students enter middle and high
school years, they will begin to make more of their own decisions regarding
extracurricular activities and after school jobs. Still, parents should remain
involved and use their children’s new found autonomy as a springboard for
discussions about a healthy, balanced life. This is an excellent stage to coach
children on time management. Conversations about how to manage work, family,
recreation and responsibilities set the tone for discerning, realistic
scheduling.
In planning the calendar for the new
school year, family time should be a priority. For some families, this will be
a special weekly activity. In other households, families might schedule a
weekend getaway once each grading period. Regardless of the budget or the
schedule, families need to consistently make time for meals together. One
mother said, “Our sports commitments and work schedules made dinner together
nearly impossible, so we improvised: we now have breakfast as a family.”
Gathering at the table, even for a bedtime snack, is an important ritual for
busy families. Mealtime together allows families to reconnect, celebrate
success and share concerns. In addition, parents will have an opportunity,
through conversations with their children, to guide their morals and ethics.
Finally, mealtime offers a chance to learn manners, turn taking, and other
social skills that are critical for success.
It’s A New Year for Parents, Too…
Parents have their own concerns as
the school year commences. Usually, a new school year brings a whole new set of
teachers for each child. Building positive relationships with these
professionals is a necessary first step toward a successful school year. One
way parents can accomplish this by volunteering to help in the classroom. Not
only will this assist the teacher, but it will also give parents a first-hand
account of how the classroom operates. This will help parents to understand the
teacher’s style and more effectively assist their children with homework and
projects. In addition, involvement in the classroom helps parents to anticipate
the teacher’s needs, allowing parents to play a more supportive role.
Parent-teacher communication plays a
pivotal role in the success of every school year. At the beginning of the year,
most schools hold Open House to orient parents to the curriculum and classroom.
During this time, parents should find out what method of communication the
teacher prefers. While some teachers find the convenience and speed of the
computer facilitate communication, others prefer phone calls or, as one teacher
says, “A good, old fashioned note from home.” Parents should also ask how general
information about class activities and course content will be disseminated;
many teachers maintain websites, while others write weekly or monthly
newsletters. Knowing the teachers’ policies and routines helps to set a more
predictable tone, alleviating frustration.
As the
school year progresses, students’ goals and schedules will undoubtedly change.
By maintaining consistent communication with their children and with the school
staff, however, parents will be able to closely monitor their children’s academic,
social and emotional growth. The milestones students achieve will be measured
not only by grades and test scores, but by maturity of character. Emphasizing
both personal and academic growth sets the tone for a truly successful school
year.
